Wednesday, August 29, 2007

Don't Look if You're Queasy

Poor little guy. He's a tough one though. Would rather not put his foot in the bathtub, but handles the bandage change pretty well. (He gets to pinch dad anytime it hurts during the procedure! He likes that.) It grosses his mother out, so she just gives him kisses once the owie is all covered up again.


Costco Chaos

Near the top of my "must-have" list, when looking for a rental here in Boston, was "How close is it to Costco?" Of course, I didn't find a place with Costco right down the street like in Highland, but ours is only 4.7 miles away. (I know the distance because Gwendolyn told me. Gwendolyn Prudence Smith is our GPS - she talks us through many crazy roads.) Anyway, yesterday I made a trip there with the four little ones and had my two carts loaded. As I left the store the cart got stuck on something and I had to push VERY hard to get it past the obstacle. When I heard the scream I realized it had been stuck on Cooper's foot. His whole toenail on his big toe was ripped right off. I felt awful! But not as awful as he did. I left Tessa with the kids and ran inside for napkins to blot the blood (not just a little). Even as I ran back out the door I heard people shouting that someone was hurt, and employees were calling on their radios. Some kind stranger was helping Ivy to sit back down in the cart, and others had stopped to help Cooper. One man gave me his cold water to pour on the toe, and another brought more napkins. Even before the employees had brought out bandaids and such, people had offered to call the paramedics. I didn't dare tell them that I would be the one needing the paramedic if the bleeding didn't stop. An older "tough" man stopped - I say tough because he looked like a hardened vet, and knelt beside Cooper. He put his arm around him and kept saying "God bless you boy. God bless you boy. You'll be fine." He showed him how he had a bandaid on his finger from a pocketknife cut he had just gotten that morning. Of course Cooper thought that was cool. Anyway, we wrapped his toe in guaze and bandaids and carried him to the car. The manager came out to file a report - I told him not to worry about it. (He was afraid some other member had rolled over his toe. I said, "no, it was his own mother!") I assured him we wouldn't be suing Costco and he helped us to the car and unloaded the groceries. Well, the best part of the story is that Richard was home when we got home, so I gave him the assignment of checking it closely and cleaning and bandaging it. Cooper's a trooper!

Today we were planning on going to the beach with a bunch of moms and kids in the ward, so Cooper got his toe all wrapped up in plastic. Unfortuately, the battery on our car is dead!! We have a driveway that is only 12 inches wider than the car so there is no possible way that someone can jump start us, without us pushing the car to the street first. I can't push a Suburban, so here we are at home today. The kids were so disappointed (as was I!). They ate their sack lunches at the kitchen table dressed in swim suits. Poor things.

Aquarium Action

We spent a few hours at the New England Aquarium last week and then spent the evening in downtown Boston. It was fun - and even the big kids liked it. (Austin was the first one ready to leave the Aquarium though!) When one of the workers was giving a lecture on the many swimmers in the tank, Cooper raised his hand in front of a big crowd (I didn't even know he was going to) and asked "How big does a lemon shark get?" His mom didn't even know there's such a thing as a lemon shark. The instructor said she wasn't sure on the growth of that species, but she'd try to find out. Smart little guy - and not shy at all.
Ivy loved the penguins - she couldn't get enough of them!


Maia holds a star fish. Of course when Cooper picked one up he zoomed it through the water singing "Spider Man, Spider Man!" The poor thing may have been a bit dizzy by the time it was returned to the rock.
Tessa touches a Horseshoe Crab. Of course mom pulled out the Germ-X when we were done with this part of the aquarium.


The two "cool" kids refused to get in the picture.

Ivy was nervous the first few times these guys swam by, because we were standing right at the glass below water level.


Parking costs $35! It's those kinds of things that gets my husband more than a little irritated. I have to remind him it's going to cost us money to have some experiences!!! He seriously would rather go home than not pay! I was proud of him though, that he didn't verbally tell them what he thought at the ticket counter as he paid for us to get in the Aquarium!


Maia with her "kitty" she bought from a vendor - and Ivy busy with her ice-cream. We were waiting on the steps of the Quincy Market (the ORIGINAL building where early ships unloaded the wares directly onto the steps) to meet up with the rest of of the family. We didn't mind the wait. We bought yummies from a bakery (but Ivy wanted ice-cream), sat on the steps, listened to street music, and watched the pigeons.


If you look closely, the statue might move. It's a person! He must make really good money because people dropped in a $1 to receive a "fortune." I guess it's a good way for a college student to support himself.

















Sunday, August 26, 2007

Rhonda's Sacrament Talk

Here's my contribution to our ward this week. We're in Belmont 2nd Ward - which is fantastic. Richard, McKenna, and I all spoke on some aspect of obedience, so you'd think we have the principle down. Not so, but good to be reminded.

The Blessing of Intelligence by Obedience


I was given a broad topic of obedience and as I searched, I found this scripture in Corinthians. I thought I could both begin and end my talk with it. “Let your
women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law.” I could just sit down now, but luckily for Richard I found a topic that interests me so I’ll stand here and talk.

Many are the blessings of obedience, including safety, prosperity, health, protection, joy, and progress – but there is a distinct and, I believe, greater blessing that we don’t often recognize or discuss. It is the blessing of revelation, or knowledge and intelligence. This is the subject I’ll address today, using the words found in section 130 of the Doctrine and Covenants as the basis. Verses 20 & 21 we’ve heard often. “
There is a law, irrevocably decreed in heaven before the foundations of this world, upon which all blessings are predicated. And when we obtain any blessing from God, it is by obedience to that law upon which it is predicated.” That’s simple enough. Because the kingdom of heaven is governed by law, when we receive any blessing, it is by obedience to the law upon which that blessing is based. But let’s consider the verse that introduces those two. Verse 19, “And if a person gains more knowledge and intelligence in this life through his diligence and obedience than another, he will have so much the advantage in the world to come.” Embedded in the truth that intelligence will go with us from this world to the next, is the truth that knowledge and intelligence are gained through obedience! The subsequent more familiar verses are simply the explanation that it’s a law – impossible to retract - that we must receive that intelligence when we are obedient.


Recall that when Adam, recently cast from Father’s presence, built an altar and undertook to worship there simply because he was told to. In Moses, chapter 5, we read that, although he knew not why he had been commanded, “Adam was obedient unto the commandments of the Lord.” Now consider what happened following “many days” of that obedience. An angel appeared and taught Adam the gospel. He told Adam of the Savior who was to come. The Holy Ghost fell upon Adam, and Adam prophesied then concerning the inhabitants of the earth down to the last generation. Because of simple obedience Adam received great knowledge and intelligence. Another illustration of this same truth is when Joseph Smith first saw and touched the gold plates under the rock on that hill, he was told the time was not yet that he should remove them. He was told by the heavenly messenger that he should return again. In Joseph Smith’s History we read “Accordingly, as I had been commanded, I went at the end of each year, and at each time I found the same messenger there, and received instruction and intelligence from him at each of our interviews, respecting what the Lord was going to do, and how and in what manner his kingdom was to be conducted in the last days.” Light and truth were the result of Joseph’s obedience.

Light and truth, or intelligence, will be the result of our obedience as well. We may doubt and declare that “surely Adam and Joseph and others like them were great men with important missions to fulfill, and they were so faithful that of course the Lord would reveal significant truths to them.” But, unmistakably, we are a great people too, and as individuals we have important missions to fulfill as well. The Lord wishes us all to receive light and truth – and we may through obedience. A statement from one of President Monson’s talks years ago has stayed with me. “If we are on the Lord’s errand, we are entitled to the Lord’s help.” I believe there is not one of us here who is not on the Lord’s errand, and so we are each entitled to his help, to revelation and truth pertaining to our errand. It may not be our mission to introduce humankind to the earth or to translate golden plates, but we do have a certain someone to raise, a certain person to influence, a certain technology to develop, a certain strain to discover, a certain hand to hold, a certain piece to write, a certain song to sing, a certain lesson to teach, or a certain group to lead.

But how exactly will the blessing of intelligence help us fulfill our errand, our mission, our role on this earth? By shifting our paradigm. We unwittingly have a set of beliefs that surround and define the reality of each situation in our life. We feel, respond, and act according to that reality. Those sets of beliefs are rarely accurate and so our response to circumstances may be anything less than ideal. The best way to solve that dilemma is not to force a behavior change, but to gain a true and correct understanding of the situation. (To gain intelligence!!) The correct behavior will automatically follow. Stephen Covey has explained in a couple of his books the principle this way. No matter how fast we drive, how positive our attitude, or how many routes we try, we will still be lost in Los Angeles when we’re using a map for New York. He gives a personal example of an encounter on a subway. (Man and children story) The truth of the situation didn’t change. The children’s behavior didn’t change. Brother Covey’s understanding of the situation became clear, and so his response to it changed accordingly. My dear friend shared with me an even a more applicable experience. Although she loves all four of her children deeply, she has had difficulty appreciating the personality traits of one of her daughters. My friend knew she should embrace her daughter’s attributes wholeheartedly, but it was a struggle. Then my friend sat in a room and listened to the Patriarch, a man ordained to speak for God, as he recited and named the precious and divine gifts this girl has been blessed with. He described her as God made her and knows her. My friend’s heart was softened. Her daughter is still the same girl, but my friend has a clearer understanding of who that is and the struggle of acceptance has diminished.

I’ve listed some ways that, in my life, intelligence - insight and understanding, and clarity and light and truth - would serve me well. I believe that these apply to everyone here in some way or another.

As a mother – I need enlightenment through which to recognize the divine composition and potential of the souls loaned to me, and in choosing the methods of guidance to help bring that to fruition. I need understanding of diverse personalities to help me foster patience.

As a wife – I need knowledge by which to be the best-possible partner, to fulfill his needs and support his ambitions. I need wisdom with which to build the foundation of a companionship that will last through the eternities.

As an individual – I need revelation by which I become spiritually and temporally enriched. I need awareness of others in order to build and keep strong relationships and in order to reach out and serve.

As a member of a community & society – I need truth to help me make wise choices as I navigate through the confusion of politics and government, the pressures of lifestyle and media, and the ideals of philosophies and movements. I need illumination by which to see and stay on the path of righteousness so I can be in the world, but not of the world.

As a member of the church – I need comprehension of gospel principles and clarity of the Church’s purpose. I need discernment with which to recognize missionary moments. I need appreciation for sacred things and for my part in building up the Kingdom.

As a daughter of God – I need Godly intelligence by which to prepare for eternal responsibilities. I need light by which to see and meet my divine potential.

Truly, there is no position or role in this life where enlightenment, clarity, and understanding of our situation will not serve us well – will not make us more capable, more successful, more productive, or more righteous in doing. When we’re relying on a mortal map, devoid of truth and light, we’re lost in darkness and our decisions in life become guesswork. When we have the blessing of godly intelligence, the confusion vanishes. The circumstances may not change – but our life lights up and we can move through it with assurance and accuracy.


So, we know that we have important missions that warrant the need of intelligence and we know how that intelligence can help us be successful. Remember, though, it’s through obedience that the blessing of intelligence comes.

In preparing for this talk, I came upon this definition of obedience – that it is the “rightful exercise of agency.” I think it is a wonderful description – it places the accountability on us where it belongs while recognizing the gift of agency from Father. Obedience is more than that, however. It is, at its very core, an expression of our love for Father and our Savior Jesus Christ. John records that Christ said “He that hath my commandments, and
keepeth them, he it is that loveth me: and he that loveth me shall be loved of my Father, and I will love him, and will manifest myself to him.”


So what is it exactly we’re supposed to obey in order to receive the intelligence and knowledge we need and to show our love for Christ? Well, Abraham gives us a glimpse into the great Council in Heaven and the plans declared there by God. “
We will make an earth whereon these may dwell, and we will prove them herewith, to see if they will do all things whatsoever the Lord their God shall command them.” We’re supposed to obey all of God’s commands and laws. That’s a long list – tithing, the Sabbath, the Word of Wisdom, honesty, charity, constant study and prayer, and on and on. But the point isn’t to make a list – the point is to be willing. Brigham Young said it this way, “The Lord has sent forth his laws, commandments, and ordinances to the children of men, and requires them to be strictly obeyed, and we do not wish to transgress those laws, but to keep them. We do not wish to change his ordinances, but to observe them; we do not wish to break the everlasting covenant, but to keep that with our fathers, with Jesus, with our Father in Heaven, with holy angels, and to live according to them.”

What we’re asked to do today is hard, but the way is prepared. We have the choice of being Laman and Lemuel, simply whining that “it’s a hard thing,” or being Nephi and going and doing the hard thing. What we’re asked to do today is hard, but not as hard as determining to sacrifice your only son, not as hard as leaving family and home and traveling the plains in deadly conditions. What we’re asked to do today is hard, but not as hard as preaching to those who hold torches and deadly stones. What we’re asked to do today is hard, but not as hard as suffering the pain and agony of every being, not as hard as trudging the hill carrying a cross on bleeding back, not as hard as enduring scorns and thorns, chants and spears, and piercing nails. It should be considered easy for us to say “Not as I will, but as thou wilt.”

I have a testimony of the principle of obedience and am grateful that a blessing of it can be intelligence. I say these things in the name of Jesus Christ, Amen

Friday, August 24, 2007

From the Mouths of Babes . . .

Well, I can't figure out how to edit my first post to add to it (I'm sure it's elementary, but my brain is even less so!), so I'm creating a new one. Following are some things you would have heard had you made the trek to the east coast with us!



Provo - We had left home, dropped Austin at a friend's, fueled the car, and weighed the trailer. The kids had been watching a movie and Cooper roused himself from it momentarily. I had a feeling it was going to be a long ride.

Cooper - "Where are we? Is this Boston?"



Vail Colorado - Cooper -"I'm excited for Boston, to make new friends." pause . . . "I might cry after a long time when I want to play with my old friends." pause again . . . "yeah, I might cry."



Buffalo Bill's Grave in Colorado - Cooper -"But I didn't see his body!"



At the gift shop there - Ivy, as she was stroking a soft stuffed kitty in a pretty little purse . . . "Oooohhhh. I should buy this for Kate." (Her little friend in Highland)



Winter Quarters - We were inside a sod house like the ones the pioneers lived in. Ivy - "I told you you shouluv brouwt a torlet for the poor people to potty!" Then she looked at the chimney on the outside and said "That's where the big bad wolf climbed!"



Winter Quarters - The children had just pushed a big handcart for a few feet and we were discussing how difficult it was to push it over a small rock. Coooper said "maybe it was because of me. I was pushing the wrong way."



Carthage Jail - At the window Joseph Smith fell through. Cooper -"Why isn't the glass broken?" and "I can still smell the bullets." (There actually was a faint burning smell in the air.)



Nauvoo - We had been talking about riding in a cart pulled by oxen since Winter Quarters. We arrived in Nauvoo and Ivy yelled, "Where's the ox poop?!"



Illinois that night - Ivy -"Let's go home 'cause I'm tired."



Crossing the drawbridge into Iowa - I was explaining how the bridge worked, that a bell would sound, etc. Cooper -"So this whole bridge will raise up to let boats go under?" I said yes. He said "Well, I'd get off about now."



1:00 am into Michigan - Ivy was the only one of the children awake so she got to choose the movie. "I want Cinderwella 'cause it has pretty dresses." Definitely takes after her mommy.



Canada - Throughout the trip had been showing the children where we were on a map. Now I showed them that we had come across nearly the whole country. Cooper -"Good we didn't run out of gas!!"



Niagara Falls - As we drove into the town we were surprised to find that it's a small version of Vegas: casinos, bright lights, objectionable billboards. Cooper spotted a building all lit up and excitedly asked, "Is that a ride?" I had to reply that no, it was just a restaurant (of ill-repute).



Sacred Grove, Palmyra, New York - As we walked out of the Grove, Cooper said "my heart was beeping. That means I heard the Spirit." Ivy replied, "my heart was beeping too."



Sweet children.


At the Sacred Grove

The Ride

We left Highland on Tuesday, July 10, 2007 and arrived in Massachusetts on Monday, July 16, 2007. After seven days and more than 2000 miles in the car, all children and both parents were still alive. Actually, the trip wasn't as nearly as tiring as I had anticipated. I'm pretty sure that's because Richard drove every single mile! He's amazing. The kids had very few meltdowns, and luckily the car had no breakdowns. Besides a MAJOR downpour that soaked most of our belongings in Colorado, the trip was devoid of problems. We definitely had lots of fun though. Check out the pictures for a sample of our sightseeing.

Buffalo Bill's Grave

We stopped for a vehicle check and Cooper demonstrated what "the dead bugs on the car look like!"

Cornfields of Nebraska

One boy in a lotta corn!

Winter Quarters

Winter Quarters

Winter Quarters Cemetery

Carthage Jail - the window through which Joseph fell

Palmyra Temple
At Joseph Smith Sr. home


Joseph Smith Sr. cabin

The Sacred Grove

Traveling isn't all bad

The best way to travel

           
Niagra Falls